What a mistake I made
Hey guys,
Just got back from a horrible experience on another forum. Thank goodness I came back to the world of sanity that is Austech.
As many of you may know, I have what is known as Asperger's syndrome, a type of autism spectrum disorder.
I've been checking out forums on the internet, to meet some others like me, and found one that looked pretty good. Joined the group, introduced myself and seemed pretty good at first. Started a few threads, and that's when it turned ugly.
I have never been so abused and humiliated in my life. Same experience I had on another mental health forum. These people are narrow-minded and idiotic to the point of stupidity, you cannot reason with them at all!
I went there for support and it has totally ruined my mood. It is mostly women who were either abused by some husband or whatever and there is a constant slant of man-hating added to each post. There are also references to how bad "men like me" are and how abusive "men like me" are to our spouses.
What absolute rubbish! I would never lift a hand to a woman, and all I've ever been to any girlfriends I've had is loving and caring. I'm never going back to any groups like that again.
You guys have no idea how great it feels to come back here, to sanity!!!
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Welcome back
What's the name of the forums? I might go wind them up a little.
AdrianR, i know how you feel, my wife is a man hater
There is a fine line between "Hobby" and "Madness"
Thanks.Originally Posted by WhiteOx
Welcome back
What's the name of the forums? I might go wind them up a little.
Rather not, I don't think they can handle any more today. I've caused enough of a "stir", LOL.
Godzilla (16-01-17)
I'm sorry to hear that allover, I don't know how you are able to deal with that, I wouldn't be able to.AdrianR, i know how you feel, my wife is a man hater
(I've edited the rest out).
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My 20 year old Son has Asperger's syndrome. My Son has no Friend, No girlfriend, yet he has looks to get a million Girlfriend. My Son friend is the Playstation and that it. He is extremely Brilliant with Maths yet he has difficulty to understand any thing.
You might want to have a listen to the podcast "startalk radio" with the episode with Temple Grandin
Neil Degrass Tyson says, "I come into the office and I look around and 95% of the people I work with could be described as being aspbergers.
And I would not be the least bit surprised if most people on this forum would also be describe in the same way.
Nobody notices here, that is normal behaviour !
Several girlfriends and friends would describe me using that word. It's not correct, instead they now use the word "Sheldonish".
I might have such behaviours, but I'm not crazy, they've had me tested.
I was interviewed (I prefer to use the words "mentally assaulted") by a psychologist elected by my ex-wife.
He's in therapy now. I broke him. Three years of university training wasted and after half an hour with me and I didn't even peel the skin of his religious biases.
Yes I am an agent of Satan, but my duties are largely ceremonial.
I was mid 26 when I decided it was time to 'Go Looking'.
I didnt belong to any groups, sporting or social, rarely went out except to the local Pub and that was a waste of time.
I was on rotating shifts over the 7 days of the week which is hadly conducive to socialising.
I had been slowly trying to 'approach' the very few females I had barely a nodding acquaintance with over about 6 months with a 100% failure rate when one morning I did something I had NEVER done and accepted an invitation from the fellow I had worked opposite with that night to go and have breakfast at his parents Pub.
There was a young woman there doing the serving who I barely took much notice of at the time.
About a month later I saw her outside the PUB one evening before being picked up by her Father to take her home after work.
I knew her Father as we were both employed by the Railway in different jobs.
Being on afternoon shift that week, I saw her waiting each day to be picked up so one afternoon I during a break I sort of hot footed it to speak to her and her father and so it went until I found out she had an interest in dancing (which even now neither of us do well, me worse than her.)
I found out there was a Dancing Class held in our main Town once a week so I used that to convince her to go out with me and for her parents to agree.
Because she started work before 7am she had to be home by 10pm which I had no problem with being a shift worker myself so I would get her home by 10pm and stayed there until it was time for me to go to work at 11pm when on night shift.
This was around this time of Year, Mid January 1970.
By the end of March we were engaged and married 25th of July that year.
She turned 20 the end of January and I was 26.
Love at first sight? I dont think so but we sort of suited each other despite her being Aquarius and me being Scorpio which according 'to the Stars' (Fire and Water) are totally incompatible.
I dont regret being married or marrying her or even 'looked' for other female companionship as it just doesnt interest me.
I have said loudly on many occasion that the six months we 'courted' damned near killed as I was working 13 days out of 14, several were 12 hour shifts, she was a 'domestic' working a 'split shift' with a 3~4 hour break between the morning and evening part of her day Monday to Friday that I would never ever go Courting again!!!
I sometime think today's society, Family and friends puts far too much pressure on people find a companion by dating in their early Teens and being married by their 20's and of course having Children by a set time.
The other major burden I believe that affects many is the cost of finding a place to live and getting all the 'Goodies' NOW that their parents took half a life to obtain.
I was lucky as my Mother and I decided to buy this house 5 years before I ever thought of getting married, it was cheap and we were sick of renting so we had a house to start married life albeit with the bare necessities.
All I would offer for advise is for you to keep looking and not lock yourself away no matter what responses you get as those making such remarks may just envy you and are jealous of what you have even if its just a nice Hair cut!!!!!!!!!
I stand unequivicably behind everything I say, I just dont ever remember saying it !!
irritant (16-01-17)
I'm sorry for the rant guys. Didn't mean to lower the mood here. I've taken out some of my speech from earlier.
I just felt really terrible after all of that, but feeling a bit better today (what a difference a day makes, wasn't that a song?).
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cmangle (18-01-17)
It all comes down to what's normal doesn't it?
EG You and I may be 'normal' but not so sure about the rest of 'em
Perhaps it's even more a case of tolerance & understanding (or lack thereof)
irritant (16-01-17)
It sure is:(what a difference a day makes, wasn't that a song?).
But my favourite version is performed by 7 year old Angelina Jordan.
Hard to believe she was so young at the time.
Hope the musical interlude cheers you up.
Sorry to hear of your bad experience, Adrian. I think you'll, sadly, find that there are more forums like those you have just left. I've been tooling around the 'net since the 90s and have only become regularly involved in only 3 forums (This one being one). I do tend to lurk on various sites of interest, and only after much lurking do I sign up. Hang in there, mate, I'd hope that we are not judgemental here.
I'm out of my mind, but feel free to leave a message...
irritant (16-01-17)
I've heard some horror stories about psychologists. I'm glad you didn't put up with any BS from him or anyone else.
I'm quite lucky actually, my psychologist is very good. She has truly helped me a lot I must say. It's a slow process though and can be frustrating. She has a lot of patience.
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Was thinking the same thing. I'll sign up as a cowless UFOWelcome back
What's the name of the forums? I might go wind them up a little.
That's what I love about Austech, there is none of that stuff going on here.
What attracted me to Austech was just the positivity going on here, the atmosphere is just different, much lighter somehow. And we've got cool moderators and admin who actually are proactive and make an effort to keep all the malicious people out.
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Quoter Trash
Neil Degrass Tyson says, "I come into the office and I look around and 95% of the people I work with could be described as being aspbergers.
And I would not be the least bit surprised if most people on this forum would also be describe in the same way.
Nobody notices here, that is normal behaviour !"
Digressing a mo, was at a birthday party at xmas in Sydney (am from Melbourne) the sister of the party girls' job was placement of aspbergers etc in Universities through out California, questioning her she said that placements worked because they, the subject, were analyzed and placed in fields which were narrow but at what they excelled and found comfortable in and she said the results were very good in as much the majority graduated and found permanent jobs
Last edited by allover; 17-01-17 at 12:13 PM.
There is a fine line between "Hobby" and "Madness"
irritant (17-01-17)
Thank you 'mtv' for the Angelina Jordan - What a Diff'rence a Day Makes clip,
That girl sounds pitch perfect, real talent.
I remember the Esther Phillips version back in the 70's, I loved the guitar riff in it.
irritant (17-01-17)
Wow, that young girl is an amazing singer!
Sanity will be flattered you came back to Austech
.......Leroy
irritant (18-01-17)
I think the words they use to describe me is .... "incompatible personality type".
The word I prefer is "arsehole"
Lets just say that psychologists and I don't play well. Ok... it might be just me.
But that is because I don't want to play with them, it's usually forced up me.
I had to attend a counselling session to do with family court. It was not in my interests not to attend. So I decided to go and try and avoid contact with any other life forms.
The tag team psychologists on duty were way too busy dealing with the rest of the nut cases to worry about me sitting up the back trying not to be noticed.
"What's your thought on this Mr Trash?"
"Do I have to answer that honestly?"
"I don't see why not?"
"Because you might be deeply disturbed by the answers."
"Try me."
"Only if you promise not to call the police."
"Ummm...."
"Next Question"
They left me alone until I couldn't help but laugh at one of the comments latter in the session.
Sneaky psychologists looking to find favour with me. I laughed at one of the pet hates of psychologists and they picked up on it.
Enough for them to get a foot in the cerebral door.
In any case I managed to escape because the other damaged people in the room had much bigger issues then getting a rubber stamp
Yes I am an agent of Satan, but my duties are largely ceremonial.
irritant (18-01-17)
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